Just RUUUUN! … Butchered
by the wife Late ASP Caleb NBA to the rescue
The death of Osinachi Nwachukwu, brought to the
front burner the sourge of spousal violence, which I have upgraded to
terrorism. People were so embittered that they would have ‘finished’ Peter
Nwachukwu if they could lay hands on him.
Others blamed the beastliness of men in general, saying ‘it is in
their character’. However, it became
obvious that men were also victims, indeed
more victimised than imagined.
Unfortunately, many, even Government officials
, focus only on the violence against
women. Ekiti State pronounced immediate dismissal for any male civil
servant who sexually assaulted the female counterparts. Its Head of Service,
Mrs Peju Babafemi declared that “We
will encourage our women generally to speak out against any gender-based
violence’. Case closed: only women were sexually and physically
assaulted; the men were the aggressors! Incidentally
in the Osinachi case, everybody condemned the husband but one
Professor Anthony Oha was a lone
voice, recalling how women terrorise men
with their venomous tongues, daring them to ‘touch me if you are man enough’. When women are involved, we condemn
unequivocally. However,when men are on
the receiving end, the comments, mostly
by women, revolved around ‘who knows
what he must have done’. I had prefaced that article with the picture Dr Cherechi Okonko whose
wife, a nurse, butchered in Owerri( removed his upper teeth,
tip of his tongue and part of his lower gum}
and then called his people to come and pick up the pieces(
February,2020) ( Ik Muo; Spousal Terrorism: The men also CRY,
5/10/22)
I started from the previous article because public
officials, unfortunately, still see gender-based violence as an offence against
females. On 28/1/25, the Enugu State
Commissioner for Gender Affairs et al, Mrs Ngozi Eneh condemned "Violence against women
and girls, in any form’ and severely warned anyone intending to commit acts of violence
against women, promising to build
a society where women and girls can live without fear, where their voices are
heard, and their rights are upheld. Nothing for the men! As Zeburudaya Okorigwe Nwobo would say, ‘fa-fa-fa
FOUL’! This is a wrong narrative and this one-sided perspective will
not yield a holistic solution to the scourge. Incidentally, ALL heads of Gender Based Violence related MDAs are women and methinks we have to
revisit this. Afterall, the Nigerian
contingent to Beijing Women Conference was led by a man. Funny enough, I
have never heard of any news conference whenever men are the victims!
Back to the issue at stake, the extent of spousal terrorism, across the
globe, has reached an unbelievably
deadly and bloody crescendo to the extent that I start wondering if the perpetrators
were human at all and how they could
have done these heinous deeds to people with
whom they once shared their whole lives. What led me to conclude that it was an
end time affair and that it had risen to the power of N
was the man at Abagana who poured
FUEL on his wife, set her afire and said-while in police custody, that he never thought that she would die. Two
days later, a woman poured a scalding hot water on her husband while he slept.
They had an issue and the man thought that it had been settled, went to bed and then,.. it happened. There was
no news conference and anti GBV homilies about this. Not long after that,
Sunday Echeghi of Ibagwa Nsuka crudely amputated the wife’s hand for suspected infidelity but before then, Joshua
Nwafor of Nsokarra at Ezza South LGA, beat his wife to death over yam…just yam!
Joshua
Nwafor onye-Abagana
In Ibadan, Comfort Olajumoke stabbed her husband to death over a disagreement while in Ogun State, Yemisi knifed husbands genital but luckily, the thing managed to gang in there. In Kudan, Kaduna State, the wife amputated the husband( Idris) pennis while he slept… after just 4 months of marriage. In the FCT, one Salamathu murdered her paralysed husband and was fleeing with his possessions before she was arrested while Aminu Abubakar beat her wife to death for planning to marry another man In India, Gurumuthy, murdered his wife, cut her into pieces, burnt the pieces to ashes and threw everything into a near-by river. In Florida, Sarrah Boone sealed her man in a suitcase, taunted him as he suffocated to death and videoed the episode while in Baguio, Philippines, a woman cut of the husband’s pennis for mentioning another woman’s name while they were ‘doing’! In Yeri County Kenya, the womenfolk declared a war against their men who ‘waka’ too much and some genitals were lost before police intervened. This forced an entrepreneur to design a purpose-made metal genital-protector!
I started this treatise a few
weeks ago but let it in a state of suspended animation until another round of unimaginable and unbelievable spousal terrorising occurred. Mr and Mrs Caleb had played and prayed before
they went to bed only for the wife to brutally knife out Calebs third leg and
Caleb used his last breadth to knife the
wife to death. They turned their children, who ate and prayed with them that night, into
orphans! Clabe was a gallant police officer! There was a girlfriend who
also amputated the boy friends pennis
for infidelity… ordinary girl friend (GORY pictures
following) while another woman drugged the husband and amputated both
hands because he used her money to buy
Iphone for his sidehen. Kevin Izekor used a hammer to
smash the head of the wife, Success, during a heated argument at 50 Upper
Mission Road extension, Benin on 22/2/25. They were married for just 8
months. In Fadama
Mada axis of Bauchi Nurah Isah, flogged his second wife, Wasilah Abdulahi to
death over arguments about the ingredients and fruits for breaking the ramadam
fast on Saturday night,1/3/24. Murder relating to how to perform the
Ramadan, a religious observance! It is like Okonkwo who mercilessly beat up his wife , Ekwefi, during the week of peace! Yonder, Robin Deaton is being charged for attempted murder and
kidnapping after she locked up her
husband in a storage unit without food or water for days. The only good
news is that the NBA Ado-Ekiti has launched a sensitisation
programme on domestic violence against
men!
So, what has
gone wrong? Why should the chant
change from ‘if I don’t marry her
I will die’ to ‘If she
doesn’t leave my house, I will kill her’, and that is within a
twinkling of an eye? Drugs? Social media and peer influences? Bound to violence? Did the devil himself descend to earth or is it evidence of
end-times? Poor anger-management? Socio-psychologically ill-equipped
couples? Wrong expectations from
marriages? Or all of the above?
This is becoming a worrisome
scourge. It is obvious that the socioeconomic
foundations of marriage as we knew it, have collapsed. Even the Catholic Church which preaches till
death do us part is now preaching some
distancing if violence is involved while Chiwetalu Agu sensibly argues that ‘divorce is better than
rest in peace’.
To escape the ‘ire’ of some of my friends or frenemies who accuse me
of non-stop lamentations, let me raise
some posers and proffer some practical, useful and usable recommendations.
People should study and understand the person they want to be entangled or
yoked with, especially, their temperaments, and physical or talkative tendencies, When a person slaps
you or lockes you out or throws the
plates or dirtied water at you or breaks the TV
within the first month, you should have a serious review of the issue. The possibility of s/he changing is there but
the probability is ,00001. Introspection on why
you want to marry and why you want to marry a particular is pertinent
upfront. In the aftermath, one should
still think of why s/he married and why that particular person. Remembering
this ‘why might enable you to dig in when it is safe and sane to
do so.After all, Love conqueres all - amor vincit omina( Chaucer,
Canterbury Tales). At this juncture, one would wonder if the Church has
failed in its teachings: marriage for
life, turn the other cheek, forgive 70x 7, sacrificial love. Surely,
the church still has much to do; it has to ramp up its teachings on marriage,
appropriately posited within the realities of today.
Each party should have a reasonable red line, probably discussed upfront, and RUUUN ( separate) when your spouse crosses the line. Sure, God said that It is not good for man to be alone( Genesis,2:18) However under certain circumstances, it may become necessary for man to be alone instead of buying an early and gruesome exit form the world. For the men in particular, I advise that they procure metal-pennis- protector( I am the sole distributor in Nigeria and West Africa) and take out some genital-protection insurance policies( which I have already)designed for some insurers! The yield from the insurance policy should be channelled into the purchase of artificial pennis whenever it happens. The Government and its agencies should fund our Research Institutes to hasten their research into the mass-production of affordable artificial pennis. The emphasis is on men because no woman has had her genital organ or chest region ‘amputated’! there are many ways of fleeing from the devil as shown below!
However, despite all this, the marriage
industry is still booming in
Nigeria as Minister of Interior, Dr Olubunmi Tunji-Ojo has disclosed that the FGN.raked in N24bn from through marriage
registries in 2024. That is Nigeria for you!
The Season of Lent
This is to wish all Christians a memorable
Lenten season; a season of prayers, fasting, almsgiving, forgiveness and
sacrificial love. Fasting is not all about food- that is for those who can
afford the food; it is about our attitudes, behaviours and tendencies. We can
fast from meanness, pettiness, jealousy, badmouthing, bearing grudges,
unforgiveness and plain wickedness. By
the way, some of our northern brothers have closed public and private schools
for the Ramadan fast. I believe that
this is a way of ‘forwarding our educational system to its fowardness’(
reconstructing Orji Kalu’s speech). I
also advise our Christian brothers to close ALL schools, instititions
and organisations for 40 days of lent plus the holy week and the Easter Tridium( almost 60 days). This
will ensure that our educational system
breaks world records and that BATs proposed N30trn economy will become a reality earlier
than imagined
Nigeria Today
Somebody called from yonder and asked how
things were in the country. I told him
that I had no time for that but that he should read up the happenings in Osun
State( local Government elections), River State ( Wike Proxy War, ‘Supreme
Cult’ judgement and the aftermath),
Lagos State( the forceful and triumphant
return of Obasa), appointment of the new
Accountant General ( Reward for the
corrupt, ignoring our first 11, and Consolidated Capture of our financial
architecture) and the Senate( Natasha vs-Akpabio, Parts 1 to 3). If he
wanted to go a little barkwords, he should read about Kano( where they
have the FG and State Emirs). He got
back to me later and said: I now understand! What about you?; Don’t you understand?
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